NSBR - So tell me if I did the wrong thing...

[Julie Johnson]

Yesterday my boyfriend had to take his son to register for Kindergarten. We (he and his kids and me and my kids) had already made plans to have dinner that evening so he wanted us to just come along and then we would go to dinner. Plus, he wanted me to check out the schools to see what I thought of them in case (hehehe) my kids are in that school district one day.
Now, before I go any further let me just say that my boyfriends ex kicked him out of the house so that she could move in her new boyfriend. She then proceeded to marry the new boyfriend 2 days after their divorce was finalized.
So, his ex called as we were driving to the school to say that she was waiting out in front of the school for himand that she was looking forward to spending time together as a family. At that point he told her that we were with him. Well, she went ballastic, cussed him out and hung up.
We got to the school and did the registration stuff and then showed his son the classrooms and stuff. The ex was being very cold and kept glaring at me and my kids the whole time. Then out of nowhere she went ballastic again and literally started screaming profanities at him, then at me, then at my children. Keep in mind we are in an Elementary school with lots and lots of Pre-K children and their families. She told me that I should have known better than to show up at "their" special thing and that this was an event for "their" family.
Now, in my mind they are divorced and she is re-married so why is she looking for special family time with her ex? Was it wrong of us to be there?

[pbumbaca]

Absolutely not, your boyfriend asked you to go and you are his family now! I think the ex has some unresolved things she needs to take care of, nevermind a LOT of growing up to do!

PS Sorry you and your kids had to deal with that!

[Carinspixels]

well Julie, I think since they broke up, and you and your boyfriend are actually on the serious grounds cause he asked you to come along....you had every right to be there.
She was out of order to go that balastic on you and your kids, even if she felt it was their thing. She should not have thrown a fit publicly. What did your boyfriend say about all this?

[happyraspberry]

they divorced, she's remarried.. It's none of her damn business why you are there.. I don't think you did anything wrong..

[ChristyHC]

I'm not really sure what you should have done. Part of me thinks you had every right to be there and part of me says that if it bothered her that much maybe you just be the bigger person and excuse yourself. I just wanted to say that I'm sorry you had to be a part of this and I can't believe how some people act like this! There is obviously something going on in her life that is making her feel insecure and angry.

[strangejen]

first, you did nothing wrong.

second, this person is obviously about to implode . . . so you just sit back, be gracious and polite, and let her ruin her life herself. Anyone who would go psycho in the middle of a public place -- an elementary school, no less -- isn't firing on all cylinders (heh, I've watched Cars too many times) and she'll dig her own grave soon enough.

[just terra]

well my response essentially contains a lot of profanity that prolly shouldn't be used in a public forum...

but no. you were NOT wrong to be there.

in my house we have this saying " Shuffle your feet, lost your seat." meaning, once you have moved yourself from a place, you cannot be mad if someone else takes your spot on the couch, special armchair, whatever.

The end.

She gave it up, now she wants it back. Sorry - welcome to the real world where life doesn't work that way. Now go back and play house with your oh so classy new husband -2 - days- after-you-got-divorced lady. And leave my friend julie and her kids alone!!!!

(julie - do you need me to fly down there to hot-lanta to take care of this broad for you?!>!?!?!? ha ha ha ha !)

seriouslly - TRY to let it roll off your back. She obviously has issues. Don't let them come in the middle of what could be a GREAT relationship with your boyfriend!!!

HUGE hugs sweetie! So sorry you and the kids had to be subjected to that!

terra

[Julie]

Originally Posted by happyraspberry

they divorced, she's remarried.. It's none of her damn business why you are there.. I don't think you did anything wrong..

Ditto! She's remarried which obviously means her new husband is part of the child's life and you have as much right to be part of his life and his special day as anyone else does! She needs to get a grip on reality!

[Jennilyn]

Definitely agree with everything said! You did nothing wrong Julie.

[~Julie~]

You had every right to be there... Im sorry she was being so childish